My Heart, Be Still


Whine Not


“Do everything without grumbling or arguing, so that you may become blameless and pure, children of God without fault in a warped and crooked generation Then you will shine among them like stars in the sky...” Philippians 2:14


Have you ever tried to go 24 hours without complaining?

Everywhere we go, it seems, someone has something negative to say. It’s either too cold, then it’s too hot, too much snow, too slow of traffic, too long of lines, cranky customer service, difficult coworkers, yatta yatta yatta….

It’s so easy to mumble our inconveniences, or vent to those around us about all the little things that don’t go our way.  I am often guilty of playing my little violin, or filling conversation with things that are going wrong instead of right.

But other days it hits me how loud, overtaking, and ridiculous all of this whining really is.

I realize how much complaining clouds our mind and narrows our focus on what we’re upset about instead of taking our inconveniences in stride and being open to what God is showing us. We’re overlooking the many blessings, and dwelling on the tiny pains instead.

Who am I to think everything should run according to my plan? That I deserve a perfectly smooth life? Ha! Far from it. And most of the time these small nuisances are nothing compared to the incredible suffering and tragedy many people are experiencing daily, so I should just shut my mouth.

I’m humbled and reminded that it’s not all about me, and when things go unexpectedly, all it takes is a change in perspective to see the positive.

Shortly after I wrote half of this, I was boarding a plane and as we were walking past the many aisles to find our seat in the back, there were two middle aged ladies in front of us who burst out in laughter.

 It appeared to us that they were laughing so hard because their lucky assigned seats were in the very  last row.  I’m not sure if it was extra humorous because several rows in front of them were empty, but these two women were laughing so hard, one of them even started taking a picture of the other sitting in the last row of the plane, both cracking up the whole time.

Their laughs were contagious, as my mom and I couldn’t help but laugh with them.

 And there was a perfect example of replacing complaining with positivity. Any other person would probably have begrudgingly walked to the very back, mumbled under their breath, and sat down with a frustrated frown, but these two ladies took it in good humor.

 Even when small things don’t go our way- our coffee spills, we can’t find our keys, we’re overwhelmed with to-do’s, we’re late for work because of traffic, we get the last row in the plane, or whatever else it may be, may we practice taking a deep breath, and taking it in stride with a smile. Because we can’t always change the circumstance, but we always have control of our attitude.

 Ladies, I challenge myself more than anyone, but I pray that God will give us the grace to hold in our complaints when things don’t go our way, and rather, offer it up and invite Him in. When we’re ready to throw our hands up, or lose our temper, let us take a moment to pray, “Lord, help me.” Join me in attempting to be 24 hours complaint-free and let’s see how it changes our day!

Happy Friday, beautiful ladies! Thank you dearly for reading, and keep those smiles out :)